Holidays Got Your Stressed

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Self-esteem is that voice in your head that starts talking when you feel you’re not good enough to do something.  It’s that story you tell yourself that has very little to do with your actual talents or skills. Self –esteem is all about how you value yourself, your beliefs, and your capabilities.
How would you rate your self-esteem?
I’m more than capable of handling challenges that life throws my way.
I have strong supportive relationships
I easily recover from setbacks
I typically see things in a positive or negative light
 We all have those days where we are rocking it and those days where we want to pull the covers over our heads and hide. Self Esteem is a bigger drive or motivation for all of us.  When your self-esteem is high you don’t care what people think, you don’t compare yourself to others, you feel unstoppable and capable of achieving everything!!  You’ll feel that anything is possible.
We all have those days when just aren’t feeling it.  Days that our mindset is just messing with us and our self-esteem can use a little bump!
When I’m having one of those days here are some things I do to pull me out of the spiral.
1. Comparison is the thief of joy.  When you are in a bad place you only see other people good days and wonder WHY we can’t do the same thing. WHY is it taking so long. AHH the pressure to get shit done as fast as possible.  How do you break free?

Instead of comparing yourself to everyone else, make a list of all the awesome things you have done, achieved and accomplished. Make a list of everything you have to be grateful for even if it’s opening your eyes this morning and putting your feet on the ground. By taking the time to do these two things you may surprise yourself, and see yourself with more positivity and pride.

2. Set realistic goals. Be honest about your goals. The point of having goals and reaching them is to make sure you have enough time to finish your work without sabotaging the quality. It starts by clearly identifying your goals, so that you’re setting yourself up for success and a boost in self-esteem. As you set you your goals, set a reward for yourself. It will boost your morale and help you plan you next set of goals with more clarity and focus.
3. Bust the stress. Stress can stop you in your tracks, stress is one of those things that makes you want to eat your face off OR not do a damn thing! When you get stressed try one of these to help defuse the situation.
Each one of them takes only a few seconds:
  • Count to 10 slowly
  • Take deep breaths
  • Excuse yourself from the situation for any reason and explain you’ll handle it later
  • Set your watch 10 minutes ahead
  • Break down the problem into smaller parts, and tackle each one on its own
  • Do something kind for someone else
4. Find time to do things you enjoy. I know we all lead busy lives, but just 5 minutes a day can do a world of good. You’ll feel more calm and more in control of your emotions. Plus when you learn to relax it helps to  lower cortisol and adrenaline levels (which leads to belly fat).
Give one of these a try
  • Learn something new –I’m practicing Qigong
  • Connect with friends, family and neighbors
  • Be physically active
  • Seek out a new hobby, or rekindle your love for an old one
  • Get a massage
  • Read a book
Are you free on Thursday night 8pm EST? I will be hosting a Masterclass on Self Sabotage.

I’ll be breaking down how:

  • to set realistic goals and break free from perfection
  • have the courage to pick one goal and focus that and see it though
  • start slowly to make changes so that you can actually see results making you want to continue 
This is the year you go into 2018 feeling blissful, you know that feeling of utter contentment that you get from having your first cup of coffee, that amazing glass of Rose’ or feeling your toes in sand.

Will you join me??

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