Let’s dive into mindset because it’s that time of the year where we start to get a little wiggly… You came out of the holidays sprinting, but now. you are freaking tired and you are questioning if you made the right decisions, started the right program, or took the right approach! And this is when I say that you have to check in with your mindset people! Because it is your MINDSET that determines your PROGRESS.
In order for you to move past the same blocks that always seem to pop up against, you have to focus on what’s working and what’s not. And when it is not, you need to figure out where there is a kink in the process’ many of you don’t even have a process. You resort to the process of just CUTTING out everything you love and then you are going to go hard as hell and fast as hell!
BUT here is the thing.
You can go hard, and you can go fast, but you can’t go hard and fast for long!
I see this as a coach all the dang time. You are literally sprinting towards a brick wall. And I don’t want you to hit that wall, I want to stop you. But sometimes you just have to crash into the wall and know that I am here to help you pick up the pieces. Many of you overlook how important mindset is when it comes to weight loss because you can’t just transform your body if you don’t have your head in the right space. Hard does not get you where you want to go, so stop making it so dang difficult.
So, what are the 5 things that get in our way when it comes to weight loss and reaching goals’
- You don’t have goals.
- There is no plan.
- You aren’t excited.
- Breaking up old habits and installing new ones.
- Looking at your obstacles.
So, you don’t have any goals” GOALS for me are like punching in an address into a GPS and finding out how I am going to get to where I want to go. YOU HAVE TO punch that goal into your GPS.A lot of people don’t set goals because they are afraid, and they don’t want to fail.
It’s our goals that drive our behaviors.
It’s our goals that give us that to-do list.
It’s our goals that are our blueprint of where the hell we are driving this bus.
The clearer you are about what is going to happen, the more likely you are going to achieve your goals, and the more you will be able to connect with them. And don’t get caught up in negative self-talk. If something bad happens or an obstacle pops up, are you likely to see it as sign and decide it’s the end of the road. We are programmed to look for the negative, we aren’t programmed to look for the positive. The diet industry programs us to go for hard instead of easy. Why”
Get out of your head and stop taking things away, stop setting goals that make you give up everything. Instead, make a habit of adding things. Like adding more water to your diet and adding vegetables and adding protein. How about focusing on ADDING as much of that as you can to help you fight cravings and fight hunger.
Alright, how are you going to plan” What makes you feel good and what can you plan into our life’ First, you want to look at your week. Most of you are at home working with the kids doing virtual school at least some part of the week. For the most part you know what is going to happen in your week and there is not too much spontaneity in our lives anymore. You can make a plan for your food.
Meal prep. I am not one of those people that will say you need to cook on Sunday all dang day. What I do is plan 24 hours in advance and I am not caught without food or not getting my workouts in, because I have a plan. This is where habits come in, think about what you are good at’ What is it that makes you great at it’ Is there something that you want to be great at that we can start to slide into that already established behavior’
I like people to start with exercise. It makes you feel good and when you feel good you start to think of things in a better, more positive way. So how do we build upon that’ Take the same traits you are good at and put them into what you are trying to master.
Are you excited about what you are doing’ If you’re not excited, you are not going to do it If you sign up for a class and you hate it, you are not going to do it! You are not going to jump out of bed in the morning to do it So, you have to be excited about what you are doing so that you don’t drop off the wagon a few weeks in!! Listen, if you hate kickboxing, don’t take a kickboxing class because they you will lose 30 pounds. DON’T DO IT!!! Be truly excited about what you are doing and how it will affect your health because we want it to be exciting and we want it to be healthy.
Set realistic expectations magic makers. Who do you surround yourself with’ This plays a huge role in this. I am not saying don’t go out… Just when you are there can we make subtle shifts in what we buy’ I am never going to say don’t go. I am never going to say just have water when your friends have ice cream. BUT how do we have fun with a little more restraint” Inside of going for the belly buster, have a scoop of ice cream.
Let’s set goals and break down those goals. If you want to lose 50 pounds, scale it down and start with 10 pounds, and then repeat it 5 times. Focus on 10 to start. By doing this, you will have something to celebrate sooner when you hit those 10 pounds.? Instead of waiting for 50 pounds go with 10 at a time.? You may think you need to lose 50, but as you see your body transform, you may be happy at 25.?
Magic makers, stop sitting on the sidelines waiting to find the perfect diet, the perfect time the perfect program, the perfect coach. Your gut knows what it is. All you have to do is just get started! Something is better than nothing so even if you do 15 minutes of walking a day that is better than not doing any at all.
As the great Dr. Dre would say, check yourself before you wreck yourself!!!
When I do this, it helps me to just realized that all the noise inside my head is keeping me where I don’t want to be. You have to push past them and not listen to the negative. Not think about what the worst thing is to happen.
Ladies it’s the small efforts done repeatedly over time that get you the greatest results! Think of a snowstorm, it doesn’t snow 30 feet in an hour. It is repeatable and it’s a gradual change An inch an hour is more realistic. But this is the same thing with change. It’s a slow process but it works overtime as long as you stick with it.
Get your mind right, head in the game and if someone needs to hear this, tag them!
This mindset thing is never going away. It is going to continue to be the boogeyman that keeps you from where you want to be in life if you don’t get it right!
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