I use to chase perfection, tried so hard to control the uncontrollable, till one day I cried until.
- My diet â€” I eat healthy most of the time, but I do love a nice glass of Kim CrawfordÂ SauvignonÂ Blanc and ahhh coffee Oreo ice-cream (Dreamweaver moment). Iâ€™ve removed most of the foods from my life that donâ€™t really work well for me Â do allow for fun foods. Sure there times that I over do it and feel fat and bloated. Its in those moments that I learn where my boundaries â€“ no more beating myself up.Â
- Procrastination â€” I am the queen of this!! Itâ€™s taken me so time but Iâ€™ve become much better at beating procrastination. I used to put up all these barriers to get started â€“ things had to be perfect in order to start, I had to have the right pen, it had to be a Monday. AHHH â€“ yes, I still have those moments but right now I focus picking three things each day and taking action.
- Expectations â€” I am my own worst critic. For as long as I can remember Iâ€™ve had high expectations of myself and others. It was my lost of â€œcontrolâ€ that made me feel I needed to control everything. Iâ€™ve gotten better at holding looser expectations of myself, but from time to time I do Â still feel frustrated/disappointed when people or situations donâ€™t meet them.
- I take a breath. Itâ€™s not the end of the world to fail. I just need some space, some distance. I need to see the problem in perspective. When I do, I realize that some of the goals that Iâ€™m trying to achieve are pretty minor in the grand scheme of my life.
- I reframe the failure. One of my mentors says failure feeds your future. Failure shows you the path thatâ€™s not right for you. Itâ€™s the universe giving you feedback. Failure is part of the learning process Â Think of it like this, you have not failed as a person, you Â your method failed. Then ask what needs to change to get the results that I want?
- I change the method. If the way I was doing it didnâ€™t work, I need to find a new way. What can I do differently? In most of the cases, I added some accountability. I can procrastinate and hide from stuff like a champ! I also needed to ask for help and admit I didnâ€™t know all the answers and I looked for inspiration.
- â€‹â€‹â€‹â€‹â€‹â€‹â€‹I take the first step. Yes, this could feel like you are stepping off a ledge, but when you break it down to one simple step you can take this it gets a little easier to take the step. Â I had to admit ot myself that I canâ€™t solve any of my stuff overnight, or even in a few days. I can, however, take one tiny step toward my ultimate goal. And thatâ€™s all that matters.